I was tell my story about my family in others site. I wrote that my family dont like my appearance, they dont want me wear niqab, etc, etc. I wrote that my family is not salafi yet. And I also wrote my mum tought that I’m shiite –coz i wear black dress from top to toe-, last, I wrote that “what a jahil..”
Those word are overcomes a message, from lots of message, that what I’ve done is wrong. A long long message, a nasihah, Alhamdulillah. It makes me think a lot and it s already change a lot of thing, Alhamdulillah. Here is some parts of the message :
“sister i have been in the deen for a while Alhamdulillah and i have been through what you are going through.
You see the salaf is the prophet saw and his companions and taabiyeen so any right minded muslim will say that is the right way to follow but as soon as you call your self and label your self automatically you have said that im right and your wrong, im different to you and made people think you are following a strange new sect
they dont understand
do you understand
dont do this especially to your parents subhan Allah
dont make your parenst upset with you if you trully are following the salaf
follow the authentic sahih hadiths from Ahmad ibn Hambal, bukhari and muslim and abu dawaud and nissai and tirmithi and show them to your parents without labeling yourself in a sect.
explain to your parents that these 4 great imams told the people not to follow us blindly but follow what we follow. (Quran and sunnah)
what im trying to say is that do what you know is right from the prophet like being dutiful to your parents birril waalidayn if you do this perfectly than Allah swt will guide you and your parents ok
make dua”
See?! I was want to reply this message whit little bit louder, but I’m doubt, and finally thinking and thinking, and thinking... He s right. What was I’ve done to my family? I’ve scared them. It s really bad... SO i decide to say thank you to him, for reminding me about birrul walidayn, something missing in me and my parents. And he reply me with longer message than before (no problem, i like it, Alhamdulillah) :
anyway your profile reminds me of all the new people who enter into the salafy dawah and are very motivated and heated up to fix the whole world and all the bid3ahs out there and expect all the people to listen because i have proof and you dont.
it is good but dangerous
your lack of experience and hikmah may cause damage that could not fixed, especially with your family. have ever heard of hikmah and studied it from the prophet saw actions and sahabah
...they began to go home and break the tv and make takfir on their parents saying you are an innovator even you are a kafir to their parent. they became hard hearted and advicing with harsh character thinking they were doing good by enjoining the good and forbidding the evil
and i ask you, did they do good? or cause more harm
they called themselves salafies and people started to avoid salafies saying they are extremists and have bad character
these are people who must have the best character
they forgot that good character and hikmah is part of giving dawah as Allah swt mentions in the quran
look at how the prophet saw dealt with the man who did toilet in the mosque and the people who abused him
then think about your family who is not abusing you
a women came to the prophet saw and said that her mother is not accepting her religion (islam) and wants take her money
she said "should i cut tighs with her?"
the prophet swt told her not to cut tighs with her even in that situation and to be good to her.
are our parents asking us to leave islam and steal our money?
show them the way of the prophet saw and his sahaba and wives sometimes without even speaking
actions speak louder than words
everyone knows the prophet saw was good so be GOOD!
help people, smile, say good things, make people happy, give charity, be good to your neighbours,be good to your family and do not cut tighs, be good to your enemies.
isnt this what attracted so many people to the prohet saw
most of all birril waalidayn
Allah swt ordered us this after telling us worship him alone and that paradise is under the feet of the mother.
in regard to worship than purify your heart from all evil and be sincere and humble and cry to Allah swt when your praying and say that i am lost so help me and guide me and my family because Oh you Ya Allah are the only one who can guide me.
never think that you are on the straight path and doing good enough because when you do than you are actually not
the sahaba were given tidings of paradise but still fears the hell and used to cry much more than us why?
abu bakr and umar (ra) thought that they will enter hell if Allah swt does not have Mercy on them. why?
we must be like them and not like to be praised for our good
yet instead think it is not enough
at the same time never lose hope in Allah swt Mercy because His Mercy encompaases all things and he has reserved it for those who fear him.
wallahu a;’am
i am sorry for this long lecture but i am just concerned that the same thing dosnt happen to you
take care and remember that Allah swt is with those who are patient.
make dua and cry for guidance
Thank you, thank you, thank you, Barakallah fi him and his family. The best part of that message is.. ” Rasulullah is Good, so be GOOD!!!!!” Remember this. Put the underline, bold, or increase the font, this ayat :
“Ye have indeed in the Messenger of Allah a beautiful pattern (of conduct) for any one whose hope is in Allah and the Final Day, and who engages much in the Praise of Allah”: Q.s Al Ahzab 33:21
Be good to your neighbour, spread the salam, and smileeeee J (to niqabed sister.. you know what to do), Be good to other, khusnuzon, etc, etc. One day a sister come to me and asking, “Leila, I saw a women with niqab but she is such and such...?” Wow.. what can I say?! Islam is perfect, Islam teach cleanliness, goodness, peace, rifq, but the human, who try to apply it is not perpect.
One more lesson we can take, when you see you brother/sister little bit ‘too far’, remind him/her. Maybe he/she forgot, or khilaf, or dont know.
“By (the Token of) Time (through the ages), Verily Man is in loss, Except such as have Faith, and do righteous deeds, and (join together) in the mutual teaching of Truth, and of Patience and Constancy.” Al Asr, 1-3
